Court Questions My Blogging

I went to court the other day and was involved in the first THREE cases that were called before the bench! Two weeks prior, I’d gone before a judge and requested two PPO’s, against two individuals who want to remain relevant in my life, by what seems like any means necessary. But any who, the judge granted both of those PPO’s on my behalf. Well the two individuals requested that the PPO’s be terminated, which explains how I ended up back in court this past Thursday.                                 Well, this different judge kept one PPO in effect, while terminating the other one. Her reasoning for terminating the latter is because of “lack of evidence”. Well I guess someone stalking your residence and threatening to cause you and everyone (including their child) harm, is considered “lack of evidence”. Well, it is what it is! I’m NOT, nor have I EVER been worried. I just always make sure I have my ducks in a legal row.  So here comes the good part. The third case, which I was unaware of, was the individual (whom I’ve already had two other PPO’s against) asking the court to grant him a PPO against me. HILARIOUS! This was a complete waste of the court’s time, seeing that the only time that I know that this individual exists is when he drives back and forth, up and down my street (STALKING!) or drags me back and forth to family court. Let me explain how much of a non factor this dude is, if he were to walk past me on the street, or any other place, I wouldn’t even know who he was without having to give it some thought. Never once, on any given day, does a single thought about him enter my mind. That ‘s how irrelevant this whack-o is! Any who. So the sitting magistrate/judge, whatever she was, questioned my blogging about what goes on in my personal life, once he showed her a printout of a blog that I’d written almost a year ago, about his being a pathetic deadbeat (which is absolutely true and can be proven). She asked, “why are you writing about your life and putting pictures of your children on the internet?” My response, “Ma’am I am a blogger! I write about everything that goes on in my life!” “But why? What for?” She asked. “Because I’m an open book and this contributes to my livelihood and the livelihood of my children.” “Well how do you get paid from it?” She asked. “I have big name advertisers who pay to advertise on my website. I also have a nice size following, which also generates income.” Her response, “Oh. Well I see no need in ordering a PPO to be issued against Ms. Dyson. You’re done for today.” Truthfully, she just wanted to know how to get into blogging, I bet (wink). It won’t be long before I run across her vacation flicks posted on the WORLD WIDE WEB! =)

My blogging had absolutely nothing to do with the matters brought before the court, but I know that she took it into consideration in the case, where the PPO was terminated. All I have to say to that is, I’ll continue to write about whatever and whomever I choose, particularly when it’s having any type of effect on my life or on my children lives. I won’t ever post any untruths, exaggerations or unsupported information. This is America, and FREEDOM of speech is one of the best things that we have going for our country!

Instead of questioning the integrity of a single mother, who does her job as sole provider exceptionally well, ask  more questions pertaining to the case. Had she took the time to look into the history of this pathological liar, she would’ve seen the numerous PPO’s already ordered against him, the domestic complaints, the misdemeanor and felonious riddled past….but, as I stated earlier….it is what it is! Blogging is one of my jobs and I think I do it fairly well….wish I could say the same about this magistrate/judge, whose name the courtroom deputy didn’t even know.

The Diaper Switch!

It’s official! I can hardly believe that I did it, but I did! I’ve officially made the switch from my longtime brand of disposable diapers to another brand.                                                                                                                                                                                                                            I’ve been a mother for more than fourteen years now, and the only brand of diapers that I’ve EVER bought, for any of my children, were the Pampers brand. They’re all that I’ve ever known, even before I became a mother. All I’ve ever seen  my family and friends  use with their babies were Pampers, so when my children started coming, there was no question that I was going to be a Pamper mom, too. I just preferred to use what I was already familiar with, and that was Pampers. Admittedly, with my three oldest children, I never had a single issue concerning Pampers. In fact, I was such a Pampers advocate that one would’ve thought I owned an interest in the company.

Before little Zayah, came along nine months ago, I hadn’t bought any diapers in over six years. So it’s been a pretty decent stretch of time since I was last involved with the Pampers brand. Once the diaper relationship was rekindled, the first thing that I noticed about the Pampers diapers is that they’re so new and improved! The actual diaper was thinner, but the packaging promised that they were two times drier and that wetness would be locked away! Well, that’s not what I got when I started back using Pampers. Almost immediately, I noticed that Zayah’s little clothes were aways damp around the bottom area. I figured maybe I needed to change her more often. Even with my changing her more frequently, there were still several occasions when someone thought she needed changing because her bottom was damp. After an extended period of monitoring her in the Pampers diapers, and using a different brand of diaper, I was able to conclude that Pampers were no longer my diaper of choice. They weren’t the same Pampers that I’d used with my other three children. Baby Zayah always felt damp, and I was buying bags of Pampers like crazy, due to the constant diaper changing!

For the very first time, I purchased a box of Huggies Snug & Dry disposable diapers!                                                                                              I received several boxes of these at the baby shower and from Zayah’s godmother, so I used them to compare to Pampers. During the trial period,  not once were Zayah’s clothes damplike, when she’s had on HUGGIES diapers! I’ve been so impressed with this brand of diaper, that I just may become their advocate now!  I never thought that I’d ever say this, but it’s been four babies and fourteen years later, and  I just made the switch! I’ve  become a HUGGIES mom! =)

BANG!

Just a little more than two weeks ago, as a mother, I experienced one of the most terrifying moments EVER! During my high school’s annual alumni picnic, a fight broke out, and then gun shots quickly followed. BANG!

Three of my four children were on the picnic grounds when this madness occurred. Two of my babies were close by, but my fourteen year son and some of his friends walked out of my sight, just two minutes prior, and that scared the bejesus out of me. After I secured the safety of my two girls (on the ground under a table!) I immediately jumped up and scanned the crowd, of way more than a thousand, desperately hoping to spot my son. There were so many panic-stricken faces, but none of them belonged to my boy. Anxiety started crippling my thoughts and I started to freak out. It took several times before I could even dial the correct number to his cell phone. When I was finally able to connect with him, my anxiety and fear started to subside. He (and all the members of his party) was safe.

They all managed to escape from being trampled, under the weight of the thick crowd, and were headed back home. Knowing that, I retrieved both of my girls and scrambled out of there, as quickly as I could.

Sad to say, I’ve experienced situations similar to this before. The only difference between those incidences and this one is that my children happened to be there, in the midst of all the chaos. As a mother, it was a total and complete nightmare. It’s something that you don’t want your children to know exists, let alone be caught in the middle of.  To be placed in a situation where you’re left (as a parent) being completely vulnerable versus being in total control (like you’re use to being) is horrific. Not knowing if my children were safe from harm, and whether or not they would make it away from there unscathed, was just too much for me. I’m so thankful that my motherly instincts kicked in and took over. Had they not, no telling what my response would have been. In fact, I know if only I had myself to rely on, things would’ve likely wound up more chaotic. There were so many children there, so I’m sure scores of other mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles and friends felt very similar to what I described.

*A 17-year-old male was shot, and several days later he died as a result of his injury.

So that was my (our) first time attending the alumni picnic, and more than likely it’ll be my (definitely, theirs…meaning my children) last time. BANG!

One year Blogging Anniversary!

WOW! It’s all I can say when I think about this blogging milestone. This last year has been another adventure, amongst many. So much has changed just in a year’s time…..Baby is no longer in my belly (in fact, she’s going on 10 months). The father of my youngest son, well he and I are way more than cordial, with one another. I’ll go as far as saying, we’re back to being friends (and not hanky panky friends!). We’ve been talking on the phone, joking around and he’s not resisting our move to Texas (which I’m most appreciative of). As for those older two children of mines, well they’re growing up and becoming more complicated by the day. But this is who they are and they’re just doing their jobs. In the words of my paw, “They keep you young!” Gotta LOVE them for that!

So it’s my one year anniversary blog and it’s  also my very first WordPress blog. I just recently switched to WordPress because I had a chick (she has children with my oldest daughter’s sperm donor) stalking my blog on the other site, and because I am such an open book (and the law has gotten involved) I figured it’d be best to switch blog sites. I have so much in the works and I don’t want those two lunatics reading about any of it on my blog, seeing that I tell and talk about EVERYTHING on here! So my thing is this, there’s nothing better than authentic and truthfulness. You are who you are, and you should make no apologies for it. There are Blessings and Wisdom in every situation, it’s up to you to find them (my 1st LOVE, Freedom, just relayed that to me….now it’s my tagline). We’ve all done things that we’re not necessarily proud of, but sharing that just may save someone else from going through it. You never know!  Truth is truth, no matter what! Sometimes it’s embarassing, it hurts, it cuts real deep and most times it’s seen as very ugly….but still, it’s TRUTH! In the end, it’s real and it’s more than beautiful.

There’s nothing off-limits with me (I do reserve some things from my children….a few of them are still so pure) I’m an open book. I’m this way with my life and the lessons that I’ve learned because I’m a lover of people…..and I’d love nothing more than to see everyone escape from some of the insanity, while on their way to happiness!

So as I celebrate the close of my 1st year in the blogging world, I ask that you raise whatever it is that you’re drinking, up high and continue alongside me as I delve further into the adventure of life….most importantly, parenting….single-handedly! (SALUTE!)